(Read the last post first. This is from Saturday night; but apparently at 1:30 in the morning the “save” button and “publish” buttons look remarkably similar. Heh.)
I just got home from the party, having stayed far, far later than I’d intended to. I was (and still am) planning to go hiking tomorrow today, assuming I wake up before noon.
The party was fun. Very casual, met a lot of cool people, none of whose names I can remember right now. 😉
As the evening wore on I got to be, for the first time in my life, that guy over there. You know, everybody else is in the kitchen, except one guy who’s over on the couch talking to a cute girl.
Tonight, I was that guy. Heh.
I’ve never been that guy before, so that in and of itself is kinda cool.
I don’t think there’s much of a match between this girl and myself but, hey, a little practice never hurts.
What I’m wondering is if anybody else has this issue: when you’re talking to a member of the opposite sex you find attractive, do you have a large amount of internal dialogue going on at the same time, or is it just me?
I mean, I’m sitting there, engaging her in conversation, but my mind is going a mile-a-minute. I’m thinking about what she’s saying, watching her body language, watching my own body language, thinking about what I can say while not making a fool of myself, etc., etc. etc.
The question is not whether or not I’m over-thinking this stuff all the time. I already know I am. But am I the only one? Does everybody else just keep it simple, their minds wholly on the conversation?
Geez, I’m in my mid-thirties. I should be a better at this crap by now.
Eh, tired now. Off to bed and… aw, crap, the sheets are in the dryer and I still gotta make the bed!
The GeekHiker 
no, you are not the lone ranger. I think we all do that! the hard part is remembering which conversation is the one with the actual person.
Hate it when the sheets are still in the dryer … I’d be looking for the sleeping bag and call it good!
By: dobegil on September 9, 2007
at 8:17 pm
I usually have that conversation in my head after as I over analyse! Nicely done on being that guy!
By: Ruby on September 9, 2007
at 8:24 pm
Pulls brain out of her head and *smacks* it against the wall.
*shutupshutupshutup*
I have no idea what you are talking about….
By: just a girl on September 9, 2007
at 8:42 pm
You’re not alone. I do the same thing, which makes me feel more awkward and self-conscious. Then afterwards I can’t remember the details because I was too busy thinking instead of just paying attention.
Sounds like you’re a chick magnet this week!
By: quirkygirl on September 9, 2007
at 8:47 pm
so did u get her number?!
let’s talk about ur internal dialogue… i do wonder if you overthink things.
let’s think about it… in the past week alone you have written about having normal and pleasant one-on-one interactions with cute girls.
it seems all the people who read your blog (or at least who comment) are chicks, and smart ones.
fact: you attract the women, geekhiker. just go with it and take advantage of these moments instead of overthinking them! 😉
By: charlotte harris on September 10, 2007
at 4:40 am
dobegil – nope couldn’t quite go for the sleeping bag, had to make the bed. But I won’t claim I made it well…
Ruby – Sounds like I’m not alone. And thanks for the compliment!
just a girl – LOL, I love that mental image!
quirkygirl – Well, now I know I’m not alone. Unfortunately, I do remember all the details, which usually leaves me thinking over all the dumb things I said!
charlotte – nope, but she is a co-worker of the friend who hosted the party, so I’m playing it casual. I know I ovethink things, which is the problem. Thank you for the kind words, you made me blush. Hopefully the more I practice, the more luck I’ll have with the follow-through in real life!
By: geekhiker on September 10, 2007
at 8:38 pm