Posted by: GeekHiker | August 18, 2008

The Lunch Date

I’ve been racking my brain for the last 24 hours about what to write about the lunch date yesterday. What to say, how much to say, how little.

I mean, how descriptive can I be of a date that essentially involved nothing but talking? For the better part of five hours?

It makes for a good first date, sure, but not particularly thrilling blog material.

So instead of getting too detailed and writing some way over-long post about it, just a few random thoughts:

There was no flower (which was my instinct, but I appreciated the advice from everyone).

We both had on jeans, and were both hotter ‘n hell.

We started with a nice lunch. She ordered a low-carb salad with a lot of things taken off. Unbeknownst to us, a low-carb salad apparently doesn’t include lettuce (what kinda salad doesn’t have lettuce?!?) so all that was brought to the table (to her embarrassment) was a large bowl of tomatoes. Luckily, I countered her embarrassment by spilling my water all over the table. We… may not be welcome back at that particular establishment.

We have a matching sense of humor. I can’t even begin to describe how rare and cool that is.

Were there differences? Sure. She doesn’t eat fried foods or fish. She likes art museums, and I don’t know squat about art. Things like that.

Were there similarities? So many, it was kinda freaky. The randomly varied interests. The liking of hiking, camping, museums, off-the-beaten path stuff. Similar politics and spiritual tendencies. We talked about the fact that we both wished we had the same type of dog. Heck, she even reads The K-Chronicles. How random is that?

I think there’s definite potential here, though of course one doesn’t want to get ahead of oneself after the first date. After all, everyone’s on their best behavior on the first date. And maybe that’s why I’m having such a darn hard time with writing this post.

So I’ll say this: I’m feeling cautiously optimistic. I like her, she seems to like me (it’s been a while, so I feel less than confident in recognizing that in another person), but not in that stupid high-school-crush kinda way. It’s more… comfortable. Easy-going. What that means? I have no idea. Hell, I’m no expert. I’m just making this up as I go.

But there is a second date already in the works. Maybe I’ll know more after that.

At least I can say this with confidence: I’m really, really looking forward to the second date.



  1. You go GH! I’m so happy for you. Having a similar sense of humor is a big one for me. I do hope it works out.

  2. Three cheers for cautious optimism!! Woo hoo! I’m totally psyched for you that it went well. 5 hours of talking is a very good sign. And if she’s a hiker, she HAS to be great, right? Oh my gosh, I just had a thought…you might have to eventually change the name of your blog…to The (Attached) GeekHiker. I think I need to go lie down.

    Can’t wait to hear about date #2!

  3. Woohoo! See, I told you condoms in favor of roses was the way to go! That’s what you meant by not writing too much, right? You left out the bump and grind?

    I’m so glad it went well. Being comfortable and having a great sense of humor is so important. And you both like the K-Chronicles? Match made in heaven if you ask me.

  4. Yay!!! I’m so happy to hear things went well. And I think optimism, albeit cautious optimism, is definitely the way to go. Can’t wait to hear more!

  5. Woot! So glad that the first date was such a positive experience (9mos? really?); hopefully cautiously optimistic = future blog entries?

    Just remember not to be *too* cautious….you have to give to recieve =)

  6. Wow, awesome! Hope the subsequent dates go as well!

  7. Hooray!!!!!

  8. i told you to chill out

  9. It sounds like you had a good time! though beware the having stuff left off the salad thing, she might be too picky! 🙂

  10. *grin*

  11. I’m so happy it went well! 😀

  12. Sense of humor – Check
    Similarities – Check
    Enough Differences to make it interesting – Check

    Sounds like a good start.

    PS: The wife and I named our dog very early in our dating. (Check)

  13. Just remember that gentlemen never tell.

    I think it’s a good idea to firewall your personal life and keep your date (the person) out of the fishbowl. If you date a blogger, maybe that’s another story. But I think everyone deserves a private life.

  14. i’m glad you didn’t tom cruise it after the date – but it sounds like a great assessment on a good time. i think you can learn to appreciate and love art museums, particularly if you already like museums. which, let me tell you, is hot in and of itself. if i could meet a guy that would actually go with me to the state museum and the art museum here, i might just marry him.

    i think your next date should be on the trail. sounds like a success, though! 🙂 and if you do that for your 2nd or even 10th date – you can pick her a wildflower. 🙂

  15. Awwww….this is why people keep dating. For moments like this. For 5 hours where you feel all goofy, warm and fuzzy, and just relaxed. For the potential. No matter how it goes from here, you had that day.

    So keep holding off on the flowers (romantic gestures too early may be creepy), spill lots more drinks (but make sure they’re clear), and let her see the sides of you that your commenters know and love.


  16. So far, so good!

    As a dog lover, I am curious about which kind of dog you both would like to have…

  17. Whoohooo!! It sounds like sure friendship… which is VERY promising 😀

  18. Want to add that I agree with kristin, you should take her to a hike! Also, it’s so cool that you hit it off so well.

    That might be all.

  19. YAY! That sounds like a pretty perfect 1st date. Looking forward to installment 2 for you!

  20. Awesome. She hikes. Awesome. See? Let the chips fall where they may and suddenly its raining potatoes.

  21. Awesome! This definitely sounds like a great first date. I can’t wait to hear more!

  22. LY – Thanks. It is!

    Mel Heth – LOL, thanks. I hadn’t really pondered the title question…

    Dingo – You are so damn funny. We shall see; the second date always says more…

    SingleFabulous – Yes, always have to have both caution and optimism, I think…

    Marie – Yes, really! How cautious to be is always a question…

    TGAW – Thanks, I hope so too!

    Lea – 😀

    AA – Yes, sir!

    Kori – True, but one can also be too picky about what to worry about in potential mates, eh?

    Just A Girl – Thanks.

    Rachel – Thanks to you too.

    Homer-Dog – I hope it’s a good start too.

    Phil – I presume you’re warning me in regards to future posts. I think I’ve always been very respectful of peoples privacy in my past blogging history…

    Kristin – Guys who like museums are out there; they’re more common than you think. It probably would be on the trail, if it weren’t for my knee!

    TheCoconutDiaries – Heh, true. I agree; I think I’m just not very experienced at the whole dating game.

    Hadley – I’ve been leaning towards labs, but I do also like huskies… you know, good camping dogs.

    Narami – Thanks. And again: my knee!

    Aly – It was very good.

    BackpackerMomma – Raining potatoes? That’s a new one! LOL

    Brandy – Thanks!

  23. wow, 5 hours is a GREAT first date! congrats! Good luck with everything. Your approach is perfect … sure, it’s hard to tell after 1 date, but there’s definitely LOTS of potential

  24. I won’t add anything to the hype, but I’m curious anyway. Let’s see the second “date”.

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